Respect, Trust, Honor, Humility

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Respect, Trust, Honor, Humility

INITIATION DRAFT — Ayaawx teaching page explaining the four foundational principles that guide all conduct, decision-making, and relationships within Tsm̱syen society. These are not “values”; they are living laws inherited from ancestors.

Overview

Tsm̱syen society is built on four core principles:

  • Respect (łoomsk),
  • Trust,
  • Honor,
  • Humility.

Together, they form the behavioural side of Ayaawx — the expectations every person must carry whether at home, on the land, or in the feast hall.

These principles are **the backbone of our governance**, the **measure of a leader**, and the **foundation of wilp stability**.

Respect (łoomsk)

Respect is the first law because it:

  • guides how we enter places,
  • how we speak,
  • how we harvest,
  • how we address elders,
  • how we treat names and crests,
  • and how we conduct ourselves in feasts.

Respect includes:

  • knowing one’s place,
  • knowing when to speak and when to listen,
  • avoiding shameful behaviour,
  • caring for the land and waters,
  • acting in a way that strengthens the wilp.

Without respect, the other principles collapse.

Trust

Trust is the fabric that holds a wilp together.

Trust means:

  • members can rely on each other,
  • leaders act transparently,
  • decisions are explained,
  • words match actions,
  • agreements are honoured.

Trust is built through:

  • consistency,
  • accuracy,
  • fulfilling duties,
  • protecting others,
  • telling the truth even when it is difficult.

In feast law, trust is reinforced by witnesses — because trust without accountability is weak.

Honor

Honor (łoomsk in action) is what a person earns by living correctly.

Honor is shown through:

  • generosity,
  • good behaviour in feasts,
  • protecting the vulnerable,
  • feeding guests,
  • fulfilling obligations,
  • holding your House name with dignity.

Honor is not pride. It is the community’s recognition that you meet Ayaawx standards.

A wilp rises or falls based on the honor of its members.

Humility

Humility is the balance to honor.

Humility means:

  • accepting correction,
  • listening before speaking,
  • not elevating oneself above others,
  • acknowledging when one does not know,
  • being grateful for teachings,
  • understanding that names belong to the ancestors, not to the person carrying them.

Humility protects a wilp from arrogance — which is one of the greatest dangers under Ayaawx.

Humility is what allows leaders to grow.

How the Four Principles Work Together

These four laws form a cycle:

  • **Respect** builds → **Trust**
  • **Trust** strengthens → **Honor**
  • **Honor** must be held with → **Humility**
  • **Humility** reinforces → **Respect**

Break one and the whole system shakes.

A leader cannot demand trust without humility. A chief cannot claim honor without respect. A matriarch cannot guide if pride replaces listening. A House cannot thrive if members do not trust one another.

In Daily Life

These principles guide:

  • parenting,
  • harvesting,
  • conflict resolution,
  • feasting duties,
  • House migrations,
  • inter-wilp relationships,
  • teaching youth,
  • entering other territories.

They are the quiet Ayaawx — the laws lived in everyday conduct.

In Feasts

Respect, trust, honor, and humility determine:

  • who speaks,
  • how names are lifted,
  • how gifts are distributed,
  • how corrections are given,
  • how alliances are formed,
  • how shame is avoided,
  • how grief is carried.

A feast without these principles becomes disorder.

In Leadership

A sm’oogyet or sigyidm hana̱’a̱ must:

  • act with humility,
  • speak with respect,
  • be trusted by the wilp,
  • and live in a way that brings honor to the name.

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